A Case Study From Islamic Perspective

A Case Study From Islamic Perspective

by Nisaar Y. Nadiadwala on Tuesday, November 8, 2011 at 11:44am

  
A young Muslim died while crossing a railway track. He left behind his widow wife who was pregnant too. After her delivery and iddah the boy's parents and her parents got together and decided to get the widow remarried. The search began and as usual it was difficult to settle a widow as they used to be settled in the days of the Prophet peace be upon him. It took almost a year and a half to zero in a boy whose wife had died leaving behind a  little son and a cute daughter.

"The marriage took place and mashallah they are happily settled" the narrator of the story told me. "Alhamdolillah the husband and all the people involved in the nikah will get fabulous reward " She added.

I interrupted, "But what about the children ? Are they too with them?" 

"No ! The new born baby is being brought up by her maternal grand mother and the two little kids are taken up each by their father's elder brother and younger brother."

 So the kids are separated from the newly wed couple. The newly born baby is separated when needs her mother's comfort most when it is born and the little kids were detached from their father soon after their mother died.The little kids were not completely orphaned till their  father mother got  remarried Can you imagine the pain of a father's departure from two little children while he is alive and the agony of the mother's death still fresh ? Look at the emotional partition , the children themselves were distributed, so calculate the breakup now.. the mother dies, the father marries and stays separately from the children and then the two children too get separated from each other. The family was not a poor one that three kids could not be accommodated. They lived in an apartment with two bedrooms. Yet, in other words, all three children lost their parents in one nikah !

 In one of the battles the Prophet peace be upon him noted a woman desperately searching for her child..He announced," No body should seperate a child from its mother...The context of that anouncement was from the enemy group yet the mercy ful Prophet favoured to keep the child united with its mother.. and the context of  my story's children are Muslims.. They have more right nto to be seperated from their mother or father.. am I wrong?

   Many sahaba married widows but took up the guardianship of the little kids with them. This is one of the purpose of resettling widows through nikah. Jabir Bin Abdullah  r.a. married a widow though he was a young man because his parents had died and he had to bring up few young sisters. Today many young men who loose their wives to death or divorce and have kids to bring up, remarry just to settle themselves , only a few people think of the children. I have seen cases where middle class families get their divorced or widowed daughter married but their little children remain at the mercy of the uncles and aunts while their helpless aging grand parents can have much to say in the family affairs.

   Bringing up one's spouses child from his or her's previous marriage may not be so easy but it is indeed a big affair, and also a fabulously rewarding.I am writing this note so that if any one from my reader is present in any such marriage he/ she must intercede on the behalf of the little children. as the Qur'an says : Who eve intercedes for a good cause shall have a share in it.....

Author : Nisaar Nadiadwala speaks and writes from Islamic perspective. He can be reached at nisaar_yusuf@yahoo.com

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